God Wants You Back, The Real You
Dear Fellow Wife,
Welcome to Part 2 of the ‘Emotional Healing’ series for wives…
Have you ever stood in front of the mirror and quietly thought, “I don’t even know who I am anymore”? If so, take a deep breath—you are not alone. Somewhere between “I do” and the endless “doing,” many wives find themselves slowly fading into the background. Not intentionally. Not dramatically. But subtly… one quiet compromise, one unspoken need, one buried dream at a time.
You used to laugh a little louder. Dream a little bigger. Feel more alive. And now, though you love deeply and serve faithfully, there’s an ache. A hidden longing. You pour and pour—but feel so rarely filled. You serve but secretly long to be seen. You love, yet somewhere in the process, you lost yourself. But here’s a gentle truth to hold on to: God never asked you to lose yourself to be a good wife. He didn’t create you to perform for approval, pretend, or pour until you’re empty. He created you to partner with your husband, yes—but first and foremost, with Him.
There is a version of you that heaven still sees.
Not the tired you. Not the over-functioning, numb, or resentful you. But the original masterpiece—the woman God handcrafted before the titles, the trauma, or the timeline. And she’s not lost. She’s just buried under the weight of roles, expectations, and pain. But take heart: God knows exactly how to resurrect her.
This is your invitation to return to your first love. To ask: “God, who am I beneath the pain and performance?” And to believe that your identity is not lost—it’s just waiting to be restored. A gentle reminder, You were not created to be everything for everyone and nothing to yourself. The healthiest wife is the one who is rooted in Christ, not lost in a role. Who you are matters to God—every part.
What parts of you have you silenced, neglected, or buried to keep peace or meet expectations?
Scripture to Meditate on:
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things He planned for us long ago.” – Ephesians 2:10 (NLT)
Let’s Pray:
Dear Lord,
I miss me. I miss the woman You created before I started shrinking, hiding, or overextending. I’ve lost pieces of myself along the way, but You know how to put me back together. Restore my identity. Remind me of who I am in You. Help me love and serve from a place of wholeness, not depletion. I trust that the real me still matters.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
With love,
Faith Murithi, FAMU.
Faith. Align. Move. Unfold.
I lost pieces of me,
— Faith Murithi. FAMU
but God is restoring the masterpiece.
Losing myself wasn’t part of the covenant,
finding myself in Christ is.
