Esther’s Journey as a Wife: Embracing the Process (Part 3)
Esther’s story is often told from the lens of royalty and deliverance, but beneath the grandeur lies the heart of a wife—navigating identity, submission, timing, and influence. Her journey reflects every wife’s sacred process: becoming before belonging, preparing before presenting, and trusting before triumphing.
1. Becoming Before Belonging:
Before Esther became Queen, she was Hadassah—a young woman learning who she was outside the identity of wifehood. Her time of preparation in the palace was not simply about being chosen by a king, but about becoming the kind of woman who could thrive in her role. Every wife must walk this path, knowing that our worth is not defined by marriage, but that marriage will reflect what we believe about ourselves. Esther entered the palace whole, not searching for identity, but carrying one.
2. The Process of Spiritual Alignment:
Esther didn’t rush to use her title as wife to influence King Xerxes. She waited. She discerned. She aligned spiritually. Her willingness to fast and call others into intercession (Esther 4:16) shows that being a wife is more than being emotionally reactive—it is a call to spiritual posture. A wife’s strength is not just in her words, but in her ability to wait on God’s timing and move in step with heaven.
3. Navigating Submission with Wisdom:
Esther honored the structure of her marriage while not silencing her voice. She knew when to speak, how to approach, and what to say. She teaches today’s wife that submission is not silence, nor is influence manipulation. Instead, it is wisdom wrapped in grace. Her courage to approach the king, knowing the risk, models how a wife should balance respect with boldness, leaning on God for strategy.
4. The Power of Timing:
Esther did not speak immediately when invited by the king. She waited. Timing was key. Her patience teaches wives the value of discernment. Not every issue in marriage requires immediate action. Sometimes, the most spiritual thing a wife can do is wait, praying, discerning, and preparing the atmosphere for a breakthrough.
5. Impact Through Intimacy:
Esther’s influence came not from public power, but from private access. As the king’s wife, she had the unique position to shift the destiny of a nation through intimate proximity. In the same way, a wife holds a special role in her husband’s life—one that, when stewarded with prayer, love, and wisdom, can shift legacies. A godly wife impacts not just her household but generations.
Conclusion:
Esther’s life as a wife was not just about wearing a crown—it was about carrying a call. Her process teaches us that being a wife is not a destination but a divine journey. It is in the becoming, the waiting, the praying, and the discerning that a wife is refined. Esther embraced the process, and in doing so, she became a vessel through which God moved mightily. Her story is a call to every wife: embrace the process, for your position is sacred, your voice is needed, and your journey is ordained. “Every wife has an Esther within her; called, crowned, and positioned for such a time as this.”
May you rise with courage and grace.
With love,
Faith Murithi, FAMU.
Faith. Align. Move. Unfold.
Esther entered the palace whole,
— Faith Murithi, FAMU.
not searching for identity,
but carrying one.
