12 Godly Principles for Dating and Courtship from Genesis 24
Rebekah’s love story is not just about romance—it’s about trust, purpose, and surrender. In Genesis 24, Abraham sends his servant to find a wife for his son Isaac. He specifically tells the servant not to choose from the Canaanites, but to return to his homeland. This was intentional, purposeful, and spirit-led.
At the well, the servant prays a specific prayer: that the right woman would not only offer him water but also extend kindness to his camels. Rebekah does exactly that—without hesitation or delay.
1. Spiritual Alignment Matters
“You will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites…” – Genesis 24:3
Though Rebekah didn’t know Isaac, she came from a household that still had some knowledge of the God of Abraham. There was a foundation, however imperfect, of spiritual familiarity. Isaac and Rebekah were spiritually aligned to grow together in covenant.
Shared faith is not optional—it’s essential. A God-ordained relationship begins with two hearts aligned in their love and reverence for God. Unity in spirit builds strength in covenant.
Verse: “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” – 2 Corinthians 6:14
Principle 1: Shared faith is not a suggestion—it’s a safeguard. Spiritual alignment is the bedrock of a thriving covenant.
2. God-Orchestrates Connections
“He will send His angel before you so that you can get a wife for my son.” – Genesis 24:7
Rebekah’s story reminds us that God is deeply involved in our relationships. It wasn’t Isaac searching—it was Abraham trusting God’s provision. When it comes to dating and courtship, it’s not about chasing, striving, or manipulating—it’s about yielding to divine timing and direction.
Verse: “A man’s heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.” – Proverbs 16:9
Principle 2: Wait on God to align your steps. A godly relationship is orchestrated by His divine wisdom, not human effort.
3. Character Over Charm
“May it be that when I say… ‘Please give me a little water…’ and she says… ‘and I’ll water your camels too.’” – Genesis 24:14
The servant Eliezer didn’t look for outer beauty first (though Rebekah was beautiful), but for a heart of kindness, servanthood, and generosity. Rebekah’s gesture to water 10 camels (which could drink up to 25 gallons each!) wasn’t just kind—it was sacrificial.
Verse: “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” – Proverbs 31:30
Principle 3: Prioritize character over attraction. Look for someone (and be someone) who leads with love, humility, and a heart to serve.
4. Be Faithful in the Ordinary
“Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder…” – Genesis 24:15
Rebekah wasn’t looking for love. She was simply doing what she always did—going to the well. She was faithful in the ordinary, and God brought the extraordinary into her path.
Verse: “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord…” – Colossians 3:23
Principle 4: God often reveals His plans in the ordinary. Stay faithful in your current season.
5. Divine Encounters Happen in Everyday Places
“She came down to the spring, filled her jar and came up again.” – Genesis 24:16
The well was a normal place for Rebekah, but it became the doorway to her destiny.
Don’t despise the “ordinary” moments. God often reveals His plans in the hidden and humble places. He often chooses the common places to reveal uncommon plans. Stay present and expectant—He meets us in the mundane with the miraculous!
Verse: “In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:6
Principle 5: Stay present in your ordinary routines—God meets us in the mundane.
6. Destiny Meets Preparation
“Rebekah also had a brother named Laban… she ran and told him.” – Genesis 24:28
Rebekah didn’t need to perform or persuade—she was already prepared. Her heart, actions, and posture positioned her for destiny. You don’t have to chase what God has already written. Preparation meets purpose when you stay surrendered and aligned with His will.
Verse: “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” – Proverbs 31:25
Principle 6: Destiny meets the prepared. Keep growing, keep becoming, and let God handle the revealing.
7. God Answers Specific Prayers
“Before I finished praying in my heart, Rebekah came out…” – Genesis 24:45
The servant Eliezer prayed a specific prayer, and God answered it with precision. God delights in the details and desires to confirm His will.
Verse: “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find…” – Matthew 7:7
Principle 7: Don’t be afraid to pray specifically. God delights in the details.
8. Listen to Godly Counsel
“Let’s call the young woman and ask her about it.” – Genesis 24:57
Even though this was a divine setup, Rebekah’s family and she were part of the decision. They didn’t rush blindly—they involved the community and sought clarity.
Verse: “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” – Proverbs 15:22
Principle 8: Godly relationships are confirmed in community. Wise counsel, family input, and prayerful discernment help avoid heartache. Seek wise voices.
9. Willingness to Walk by Faith
“Will you go with this man?” “I will go,” she said. – Genesis 24:58
Rebekah didn’t know Isaac. She had only heard about him. But she trusted the testimony, sensed God’s hand, and chose to step out in faith. A Willing Heart Attracts Destiny. She didn’t resist God’s leading. Her willingness to leave the familiar and go where she had never been is profound. It shows she was not only beautiful outwardly, but also brave inwardly.
A woman with a willing heart can be trusted with a great destiny. Be willing to leave comfort zones when God calls you into covenant or purpose—it may be the threshold of your next miracle.
Verse: “If you are willing and obedient, you shall eat the good of the land.” – Isaiah 1:19
Principle 9: Be open to God’s leading. A willing heart attracts divine opportunities.
10. Respectful Modesty and Honor
“She took her veil and covered herself.” – Genesis 24:65
When Rebekah saw Isaac, she dismounted and veiled herself—an act of modesty, respect, and honor. She prepared her posture before stepping into the relationship physically.
Godly courtship honors timing, boundaries, purity, and modesty. There is strength in restraint and dignity in discretion. Attraction is good, but honor is holy.
Verse: “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit…?” – 1 Corinthians 6:19
Principle 10: Modesty reflects dignity and honor. Courtship should be covered in reverence and respect.
11. God’s Timing Brings Peace
“She became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted…” – Genesis 24:67
The story closes with comfort, peace, and love. When we look at the story of Isaac and Rebekah, it doesn’t just end in marriage—it ends in the manifestation of God’s nature. Their union became a mirror of who He is: a God of comfort, a Prince of peace, and the Author of everlasting love.
These are not just divine gifts; they are divine attributes. When He moves in our lives, His nature becomes the atmosphere around us.
Verse: “You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You…” – Isaiah 26:3
Principle 11: When God authors your love story, it brings peace, not confusion.
12. Love is a Covenant Choice
“So she became his wife, and he loved her.” – Genesis 24:67
This line in Genesis 24:67 is not just romantic—it’s intentional. Isaac chose to love her. Love wasn’t based on a long history or dating games—it was a decision to honor covenant. In godly relationships, love is a choice and a commitment, not just a feeling. Real love shows up with consistency, compassion, and covenant.
Verse: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” – 1 Peter 4:8
Principle 12: Love is more than emotion—it is a sacred covenant backed by choice and sacrifice.
Something to note:
Before Rebekah is taken to be Isaac’s wife, Abraham’s servant takes time to verify her identity, family, and character.
Did you notice, that in Genesis 24:23-49, there’s a long, detailed retelling of everything that had just happened? At first glance, it might seem repetitive, but in the realm of relationships and divine connections, it holds a profound truth: Before the covenant comes confirmation. Before love comes clarity. In today’s language: Background check matters.
Final Reflection for the Waiting Heart:
Rebekah was not praying for a husband. She was simply available, prepared, and positioned for God to write her story. Her beauty wasn’t just skin-deep—it was in her willingness, her kindness, her faith, and her dignity.
Let Rebekah’s story whisper to your heart…
You don’t have to chase love, you don’t have to manipulate anything, you don’t have to perform for attention, and you don’t have to prove yourself. Just be who God created you to be, and trust Him with the timing and the “how.” When God writes your love story, it comes with confirmation, character, counsel, and covenant.
Let this season of singleness or waiting be one of preparation, not anxiety. God has not forgotten you—He’s preparing someone who will not only find you, but recognize you as the answer to his prayers.
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4
Coming Up Next on the Blog…
As we continue to walk through Rebekah’s story and draw out treasures for today’s woman of faith, our next post will dive deeper into the gifts she received—the nose ring and the bracelets—and how they reveal powerful truths about discernment, covenant, and what it means to accept a love offering.
With love,
Faith Murithi, FAMU.
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Before the covenant comes confirmation. Before love comes clarity. In today’s language: Background check matters.
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