Embracing the Process, Not Just the Outcome (Part 2)
In a world that glorifies results—perfect homes, thriving marriages, well-behaved children—it’s easy for a wife to get caught up in the pressure of performance. We often measure our worth by outcomes: the harmony in our household, the success of our husband, the spiritual strength of our marriage. Yet in focusing solely on these end results, we risk missing the beauty, growth, and grace embedded in the journey itself.
Becoming a wife is not just about saying “I do.” It is a continual becoming—a process of refining, learning, unlearning, and surrendering. It’s in the mundane routines, the uncelebrated sacrifices, the quiet prayers whispered through tears, and the daily choice to love even when it’s hard. These moments form the true fabric of a wife’s journey.
God never called us to be perfect wives, but present ones. He delights in our process—our small steps of obedience, our willingness to forgive, our commitment to try again after failure. Proverbs 31 doesn’t describe a woman who arrived overnight. She is the result of a journey walked in faith, resilience, and grace.
When we fix our eyes only on the result, whether it’s a picture-perfect marriage or spiritual fulfillment, we may become discouraged when reality falls short. But when we honor the process, we find purpose in each season: the season of learning, the season of waiting, the season of rebuilding. A wife’s journey is not linear. It comes with curves, valleys, and mountaintops. And in all of it, God is present—teaching, shaping, and walking alongside us.
Let us not rush the process or despise the days of small beginnings. Instead, let us embrace the daily journey of becoming the wives God has called us to be. The process is the point, and in it, we find not just outcomes but transformation.
With love,
Faith Murithi, FAMU.
Faith. Align. Move. Unfold.
Becoming a wife is not just about saying “I do.” It is a continual becoming, a process of refining, learning, unlearning, and surrendering.
— Faith Murithi
