Are you stuck because you have been waiting for an apology?
Welcome to Part 1 of the ‘Embracing the Process’ series for wives…
Something caught my attention as I was listening to Lysa TerKeurst share from her heart in Forgiving What You Can’t Forget. She said something so simple, yet profoundly convicting: “I realized I had been waiting for an apology.”
That one line stopped me in my tracks.
How many of us, as wives, have found ourselves quietly waiting—for an apology, for change, for healing, for clarity—only to feel stuck in the silence of unmet expectations? That moment stirred something within me. It reminded me of how easy it is to pause our growth, our healing, simply because we’re waiting for something or someone else to shift. But what if the waiting isn’t a pause in the journey—what if it’s part of the process?
That’s when God began to speak to my heart about purpose. About timing. About trusting Him in every season, especially the ones that feel like nothing is happening. And it brought me to this truth:
Sometimes the healing we long for seems delayed — not because time has stood still, but because our hearts are anchored to a pain that is yet to be acknowledged. If you’ve been waiting for that apology to move forward, know this: your healing is not tied to someone else’s repentance.
Yes, apologies are powerful, but forgiveness is even more freeing. You don’t need to remain emotionally stuck, waiting for words that may never be spoken. Jesus offers you peace, restoration, and strength — even in the absence of closure. Release the weight. Forgiveness is not saying it didn’t hurt — it’s choosing to trust God with your heart more than the apology you think you need.
“Some of Us Are Hoarders…” —not of things, but of emotions, memories, pain, grudges, regrets, old identities, and expired versions of ourselves. We cling tightly to what once was, what should have been, or what they did to us. We keep mental clutter in the storerooms of our hearts, piling layer upon layer until we cannot clearly see who we are or where we’re going.
But here’s the truth: Hoarding is a sign of fear—fear of losing control, fear of forgetting, or fear that healing might cost more than staying broken.
Release the weight. Forgiveness is not saying it didn’t hurt — it’s choosing to trust God with your heart more than the apology you think you need.
With love,
Faith Murithi, FAMU.
Faith. Align. Move. Unfold.
“Being a wife means making a daily choice
— Faith Murithi, FAMU.
to choose grace over grudges.
Letting go, not because the pain does not matter,
but because peace matters more.
Forgiveness sets the heart free to love again.”
(Inspired by Colossians 3:13)
